In a previous blog I wrote about How to Build Confidence, taking a look at what confidence is, how it feels when you aren’t confident and ways to build your confidence.
In the spirit of practicing what I talk about I’ve set myself a challenge to post a video a day for 21 days.
Putting myself out there on video, speaking to camera knowing I’ll be watched, is somewhat outside of my Comfort Zone – the place where I feel safe and in control.
But I want to change this, I don’t want to hide away. Hence pushing myself to do this challenge.
The point of the challenge is to get myself to do the thing that makes me feel uncomfortable, but not so far outside the fluffy happy zone that I get panicked and actually do want to run away and hide. What this means is that I have to enter the Fear Zone, allow myself to be vulnerable and accept that I lack self-confidence.
And that’s the thing with confidence, you build it by doing the hard stuff, but in a safe and controlled way. I’m heading into the Learning Zone and acquiring new skills. By doing that, you stretch yourself, which leads to your Comfort Zone expanding. As your Comfort Zone expands you start to believe that you are capable of doing the things that you once believed were beyond you.
After just one week of daily posting I was already feeling happier putting up videos. I’m a little less self-conscious, I still care what people think, but I’m not overthinking every last detail of how I look, or whether the background is ‘perfect’. I’m leaning into courage and my philosophy of life which is to embrace the perfection of imperfection. Am I already starting to reach the Growth Zone and realise I am capable?
That’s Day 10’s video, you can find the other videos on Instagram or LinkedIn. I hope this inspires you to find a challenge that can help you build your own confidence. If you want some help working out what that could be get in touch.
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