The holiday season can be magical—but it can also feel overwhelming, with endless demands on your time and energy. This guide is here to help you reclaim your peace and find balance during the busiest time of year.
You’ll discover five key strategies: audit your commitments to focus on what truly matters, learn to say no without guilt or explanation, embrace “good enough” over perfection, let go of the “shoulds” and follow what feels right, and streamline for sanity by simplifying your schedule, space, and routines.
Let’s simplify the season so you can not only survive but thrive!
Streamline for Sanity
In the whirlwind of family, work, caregiving, and personal pressures, life can feel overwhelming.
Streamlining and simplification isn’t about doing less for others – it’s about clearing space for what actually matters to you. Here’s how (I know you’ll know these things…having a reminder is always useful though):
Declutter Your Schedule: Identify tasks that don’t serve your priorities. Can a meeting be skipped? Can a chore be delegated? Let go of activities that drain your energy but don’t align with your values.
Simplify Your Environment: A clutter-free home creates a calm mind. Start small – clean out one drawer or organize your bedside table for a peaceful retreat – or why not pay a professional to put the sparkle back in your home.
Automate Where Possible: Set up automatic bill payments, grocery deliveries, or meal subscriptions. These little adjustments save hours of decision-making. Even a temporary meal subscription to get you over the festive period will help – you don’t have to commit *forever*.
Focus on Essentials: Apply the 80/20 Rule – focus on the 20% of activities that give you 80% of your results, whether it’s quality time with loved ones or self-care routines.
Single-Task: Multitasking is a myth that creates stress. Do one thing at a time and do it well – it’s liberating.
Audit your Commitments
It’s easy to overcommit, especially when you’re juggling multiple roles – and we have the festive holidays fast approaching.
But every “yes” you give to someone else is a “no” to your own well-being.
It’s time to pause and reassess:
List Everything: Write down all your commitments – from work deadlines to family obligations and even that committee you volunteered for. Go through your diary for the last 3 months for a realistic evaluation of what you have attended.
Evaluate: For each one, ask:
⚡ How important is this to you right now?
⚡ How does this fit with what you care about most?
⚡ Does this bring positive energy or peace into your life or someone else’s?
⚡ If you didn’t attend or complete this, was it because you had other important priorities?
Looking back, would you make the same choice again?
Let Go: Give yourself permission to release what no longer serves you. Perhaps someone else can step up, or maybe the task isn’t as essential as it feels. If no one has chased you for the thing you’ve missed – was it that important in the first place? In other words, will anyone notice if you didn’t do it?
Reassess Expectations: Are you overcommitting out of guilt or habit? Shift the focus from pleasing others to protecting your time and energy.
Auditing your commitments isn’t about shirking responsibility; it’s about reclaiming the bandwidth to take care of yourself so you can show up fully for the things that matter.
Ready to reclaim your time and energy? Start your commitment audit today! Grab a pen and paper, or open a new document, and begin listing your current commitments. Remember, it’s not about saying no to everything; it’s about prioritizing what truly matters.
Learn to say no without explanation
Saying “no” can feel impossible, especially when you’re used to being the one who holds everything together. But saying “no” without guilt or justification is a superpower, and here’s why:
✨ No Is a Complete Sentence: You don’t owe anyone an elaborate reason. A simple, “Thank you, but I can’t commit to this right now” is enough.
✨ Set Boundaries with Grace: Practice phrases like, “I’d love to help, but I need to focus on my own priorities right now.” You’re still kind, but you’re protecting your peace.
✨ Respect Yourself First: Every time you say “yes” to something you don’t want to do, you’re saying “no” to your own needs. Flip that dynamic!
✨ Practice Makes Perfect: Start small. Say no to something low-stakes and notice how freeing it feels.
One of my coaching clients recently shared a breakthrough moment:
She was at the school pickup, talking to another parent about the school Christmas Fair. The parent asked if she could bake something. Now, in the past, my client would’ve said “yes” no hesitation – that’s what she’s always done. Juggling work, family, & everything else, she was used to putting others’ needs first, at the expense of her own time & energy.
This time, something shifted. She took a deep breath & considered her already overflowing schedule. There was work to do, dinner to prepare and an elderly parent to check. Instead of just agreeing, she calmly said, “I’d love to support the fair, but I can’t take on baking this time.”
What happened next? The world didn’t stop spinning. Someone else volunteered & the fair went on as planned. My client felt a huge sense of relief. In that moment, she realized how freeing it was to say no without guilt. It was a small act of self-care that set a powerful precedent for setting boundaries in her life.
This is what I mean when I say practice makes perfect. Saying no doesn’t have to be a huge leap – it can start with small, low-stakes moments like this one. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Remember, saying no isn’t about being selfish; it’s about being intentional. When you protect your energy, you’re better equipped to care for those who truly need you.
Embrace “good enough” over perfection
Perfection is exhausting – and let’s be honest, it’s impossible to achieve, especially when life feels like a constant juggling act. Choosing “good enough” doesn’t mean settling; it means thriving.
Redefine Success: A clean-enough house, a project that’s done rather than perfect, or a workout that’s short but effective – it all counts. Celebrate progress over perfection.
Let Go of Comparisons: Stop measuring your life against Pinterest, Instagram, or that “perfect” friend. Focus on what feels good for you. (and ps. your friend isn’t ‘perfect’ anyway, they’re probably thinking the very same thing as you)
Accept Help: It’s okay if someone doesn’t do it “your way.” A load of laundry folded imperfectly is still folded!
Prioritize Your Energy: Save your perfectionism for the few things that truly matter to you. For everything else, “good enough” is more than enough.
Self-Compassion: Remind yourself daily: “I’m doing the best I can, and that’s enough.”
Perfectionism keeps you stuck in overwhelm. Embracing “good enough” sets you free to enjoy the messy, beautiful chaos of life. Let’s all celebrate being perfectly imperfect.
Let Go of the ‘Shoulds’ and Embrace What Feels Right
We’ve all been there – the constant pressure of “shoulding” ourselves.
🦋 We “should” attend that family event
🦋 We “should” help a friend even when we’re exhausted
🦋 We “should” be a certain way because that’s what society expects of us
The problem is, these “shoulds” often come at the cost of our own peace and well-being.
It’s time to break free from the cycle of obligation and guilt. Letting go of the “shoulds” means recognizing that you are not defined by what others expect of you. Instead, it’s about tuning into your own needs, values, and priorities.
Start by asking yourself:
🦋 Is this something I genuinely want to do, or am I doing it because I feel like I have no choice?
🦋 Does this align with what’s truly important to me right now?
🦋 What would happen if I said no, or if I let go of this expectation?
Embracing what feels right means trusting yourself and honouring your own boundaries. It’s about shifting from fulfilling external expectations to living according to what brings you joy, peace, and balance. It’s not about abandoning responsibilities; it’s about re-evaluating them and choosing what truly serves your well-being.
For example, you don’t have to be the perfect hostess at every family gathering. It’s okay to step back and choose the moments that truly matter to you. You don’t have to overextend yourself at work just to please others – focus on tasks that align with your strengths and values. Delegate where you can instead of always thinking you “should” do what’s asked of you.
Letting go of the “shoulds” and embracing what feels right is a powerful act of self-care. It allows you to reclaim your time, your energy, and your peace of mind. When you stop living according to everyone else’s rules, you create space to live authentically, honouring your own needs and desires.
Ultimately, when you align your actions with what feels right for you, it creates a sense of balance that not only nurtures you but also enables you to show up more fully for the people and commitments that matter most.
I hope you found these tips helpful—I’d love to hear what resonated with you or what you found most useful, so feel free to message me and share your thoughts!
Ready to reclaim your time and peace this season? Let’s chat! Book a no-obligation call today, and together we’ll create a plan to help you simplify, thrive, and make this holiday season your best yet.
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Lynne works with ambitious women helping them to navigate midlife and take control and thrive through 1-2-1 Mindset and Wellbeing Coaching. Lynne works with individuals on a 1:1 basis online, in person and through coaching in the outdoors.
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